I always search for meaning and depth with everything, but you know that already. Life has funny ways of giving and taking away, and at the breaking point of one chapter, a new one started with you. I was filled with heartache, frustration and I was desperate to make it go away. The last thing I wanted back then was to fall for someone again, just to end up with a broken heart. Despite that, all it took was less than a day for you to give me a feeling I’ve always been looking for. Reluctantly, I started to accept your love and with all of the phone calls through the month of September… I also started to heal. You’ve heard me laugh, cry, having endless rants of anger or pain, from hating him to missing him then back to laughing at your terrible jokes. Each time your name showed up on my phone screen I knew; that hearing your voice would make me feel like myself again.
I know I’m far from the only one going through things, and when you disappeared for a few months, I understood. The feeling of not knowing what’s next and wanting to escape is very hard to deal with, even if you have supportive people around you. You, too, needed time to heal from your past. Little did I know that when you were gone, I couldn’t understand the way I felt. I didn’t want to admit that despite seeing you once, after everything I’ve been through, I had fallen for you. So, I decided I’d meet other people. I had to forget about you, because I didn’t know if you’d come back. I couldn’t put myself in a situation like that again…
“You look beautiful tonight.” – Uhm… Sorry, what did you say?
Yeah… It didn’t matter who told me that, I knew it wasn’t from you. I couldn’t stop looking though, so I went on many horrible dates. Others were kind and interesting, but none of them captured my heart the way you did. Eventually I was okay with being on my own and taking a break from it all, until I found someone who gave me a completely different feeling, also another I hadn’t felt before. In the midst of it all I tried really hard to forget about my feelings for you, and focus on him instead. I was trying to fool myself into thinking he could be like you, having the same understanding of me, but I have to realise that’s never going to happen.
You see… Every time I close my eyes before I fall asleep, I see your eyes, and I feel your hand holding mine. Our conversations and everything you’ve told me spins in my head and what I crave the most is being with you. It wasn’t until you came back to me that I finally had to admit all of this to myself, and to you. I keep hearing the words when you told me how you felt a few months in, when I wasn’t ready to hear it. Ironically, now that I admit it, things are even harder to take. I know we’re far away from each other, and I’ve been through this before, but not with you. I realise now more than ever that if something or someone is worth it, the distance or other issues won’t matter. It’s about finding solutions despite the pain in between.
Hell, I know I could’ve moved further than this, across the world even and I’d still feel the same way. There’s something about you that makes me feel safe and you see me for exactly who I am. You need to know that, I see you for exactly who you are too. I see someone who’s as passionate as me. I see someone I can trust with everything and anything in life, and I see someone I’d do anything for. You know just as well as me that it’s in the little things, our values, and the fact that we both keep going back to each other. I refuse to believe it was all a coincidence.
I know the distance is hard to take, and I know you have your own things you need to figure out in life. I understand the need to grow into your own skin and feel some kind of certainty of where you’re going. So because of that I see no reason to blame you, or to be mad. If anything, I feel proud of you for fighting back despite the hard times. I know how hard it can be when the voices in your head tells you that you can’t do it. It takes everything that’s left of you to be able to get back up, and you did that. If there’s one thing I’ve learned from everything I’ve been through it’s that; you don’t know when things will change or end. It can happen over time or in a blink of an eye, and one day it’ll be too late. That’s why I need you to understand the reason of me telling you all this at once.
I’ve seen so many things end because neither parts dared to say how they really felt, and everything they wanted was actually right in front of them. So, without being vague this time… I love you. I truly do, as passionately as ever, and with all of my heart. I didn’t think I’d feel this way, believe me, but I’m done denying it. I think I’ll always love you, even if this doesn’t end the way I’d hope. Something that you can’t kill is a connection like ours, despite the distance, if we both find new people or if we go longer than months or years without talking… I just know deep within me that we’d go straight back to talking like we always have, and that is something that has great value to me.
However, if you ever wonder or doubt how I feel, this is it.
One way or another, I’ll always be yours. xx